Some auto dealerships have weekly meetings coaching their techs on how to find additional work for the shop. This coaching is what leads to testing the limits of what's safe or what needs replaced.
I made an appointment to get the oil changed in my wife's car. I told her if they suggested anything needs replaced/fixed to have it written down and if needed we'd make another appointment. Sure enough, they said she needed new tires. Made her feel like she may not make it home safely. It was pure BS. Good Michelin tires that went safely another year!
Palmettokat, I'd highly recommend you school the females in your family of the methods they will face when having their automobiles worked on. Sad, but true!
As the OP mentioned find some who treats you right, is honest and fair, and stick with them.
Where have you heard or seen this about these weekly meetings? I can’t speak for every dealership, but Ive worked at 3 different dealers and one independent shop and have never seen this. If I did I would certainly be gone in a minute (and that happened, wasn’t a case of screwing a customer, was a case of warranty fraud and I packed my stuff instantly, left them with the truck cab in the air and motor almost out. Long story). But even in the dealers I have been that sort of practice would not be tolerated.