Kim, you have to realize there are many more men than women on this site. Women will pop in and make a comment or post a question, but you may have to lead the pack. You may also not be able to tell gender by someone's moniker! There is a woman member who is very knowledgeable about the newer tractors and how the engine works to keep clean and I've seen where someone makes a comment and refers to her as "sir" because they presume......
My wife has never been on this site. May have glanced over my shoulder to see something I was commenting about, but she is not very passive about a Kubota tractor forum. She does spend many hours mowing during grass growing season. It's her passion. She has a zero turn (with a Kubota engine) and mows more often then really necessary. She checks the fuel, oil, water before starting and cleans all the grass of the deck, seat and radiator screen before parking it. I provide the fuel and make sure it's greased.
But if you find operating equipment as relaxing, operating a tractor is much less expensive then a psychiatrist!
Welcome, and have fun. Hope you get that coat back in the closet soon also.