BINGO - I think we are getting close and no need to apologize
I suspect whoever installed the 3rd function did not understand the circuit and put it on the wtong side of the backhoe.
The pipe (B) in this picture would go to the backoe if you did not have the third function. With a third function that should go to the P port on the third function and the T port on the third function then goes yo the backhoe. The backhoe return then goes to the top of the transmission (3pt).
That tractor needs to go back to the dealer that installed the 3rd function and/or backhoe. Tell them you think you have identified the problem and they need to fix it at their expense.because they screwed it up. I would also ask for a full refund of any expenses you paid trying to get it fixed the previous 4 times.
Dan