For a number of reasons I encourage you to see the troubleshooting process through before throwing a relay at it.
#1. It will be educational and what you learn will directly relate to troubleshooting any electrical problem you have in the future.
#2. You will have to look long and far before finding another teacher with equal patience and knowledge to Wolf"s.
#3. It's the least one should do if someone takes time to look up and post information then show willingness to walk them through it.
#4. It helps set a badly needed president that can take OTT to the next level.
#5 You walk away with a bit of pride in saving several hundred $ with a small investment in time and parts.
#6. The problem doesn't necessarily have to ly with the relay, reading what wolf highlighted from WSM tells us it can be the seat safety. Winding up with a spare relay doesn't help the objective in #5.
On to the technical chore. Alligator clips on your meter leads are like extra hands that allow you to use and watch meter while hands mess with things or siting at operator's station so that all safeties are satisfied. Which brings us to putting meter across power in and power out terminals of relay to see if contacts are welded together and/or if signal wire is telling relay to close 100% of time rather than momentarily as ignition is turned off. A bum seat switch would do that. I THINK but not positive that relay has built-in delayed action which would be good to know while testing ( I defer to Wolf as to whether that's correct). The delay/momentary feature could trick you into thinking solenoid isn't getting power. With Wolf's diagrams and a little help you can nail the fault down. Just walk away if you feel like giving up or throwing something then come back after your head is clear.