What I really like about this site is all the knowledge and if someone sees something wrong in your post, they respectfully let you know (well maybe
@SidecarFlip was an exception).
Thanks
@lynnmor for questioning the bolt length in post 19,502. I got ahold of parts schematic and used sharpie to trace the bolt. Bingo - been ordering the wrong bolt for 2-years. Since I hadn’t removed 2 of the bolts it looks like whoever installed the subframe used the wrong side bolts for that piece too. There is a L and R and they are different lengths.
Here’s before and after. This explains why I was stripping bolts, not enough bolt into the nut when torquing to specs.
Thanks to everyone that commented and kept my brain thinking.
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