First don't use heat on the coupling, take off the rod and soak the joint in 50/50 mix of acetone and ATF, that should break the bond to let you turn it.
Pull the rod off and run the tractor (keep reading, answered below) if it slips, or still acts wonky, then your way past a rod adjustment to fix the problem.
Now if when you run it properly with only using the shuttle lever, and it still jerks into gear, and doesn't flow into gear, your not looking a mechanical clutch issue, your looking at a hydraulic clutch pack or regulator issue, I bet worn clutch pack seal.
Now for the proper operation of the tractor, and I'm not meaning to me rude or harsh as a lot of people think it's required and normal to use the mechanical clutch pedal:
On a GST you should NOT be using the clutch pedal, or you should only use it when operating the PTO for engagement and disengagement or doing light tasks such as hooking up an Implement where you need small precise movements.
thus you can run and operate the tractor without the clutch rod even being on the tractor, just remember "pull the shuttle to neutral to stop", this is important!
When you use the shuttle lever it first allows the tractor to go into a range and then engages an internal hydraulic clutch, this is all done without ever touching the manual clutch pedal, and will not do any damage or cause any wear.
Also do you know that you can change from any gear to any gear without doing anything except moving the shifter, it goes through the same steps internally as moving the shuttle lever.
Yes any gear to any gear, like 8th to 1st, and yes that would be a harsh shift on you, but the tractor can handle it just fine, because of the hydraulic clutch.