I have a standing philosophy regarding service providers. I originally expounded on it on SurvivalBlog.com in connection with physicians asking if there were firearms in your home, but it works for any and all who offer their expertise and experience:
Physicians, like electricians, plumbers, mechanics and the guy who sucks out the septic tank, are specialists who can supplement the information and practical experience / equipment I need to make decisions and get necessary things done.
But they are hired help. They have no “right” to query into my personal affairs (although there are endless reporting requirements these days for all health care professionals to report everything from rape to hangnails, and a plethora of ambulance chasers hoodwinking folks to bring suit for a piece of the action).
I’ve had the same conversation when I contract with new doctors, dentists, plumbers, etc., for the last 40 years: If we have an appointment at 10, I’ll give you 15 minutes. After that I’m gone, and don’t bill me. Our invoices will cancel each other out.
My time is as important as yours. And I expect answers to all of my questions in a way I can comprehend until I’m satisfied I have enough understanding to make a decision about how we will proceed.
The great majority are surprised but ultimately on board with the idea, admitting it’s refreshing to deal with a patient who takes responsibility.
No intimidation, No pedestals.
Here in Northern Idaho I've found there are incredibly competent and dependable professionals and shade tree jugheads who shouldn't be allowed near tools.
When I state my terms for doing business, the pros readily accept and sometimes even thank me for being up front and giving them the chance to do the same. The morons get huffy, insulted and condescending and usually decline to work with me.
It's a self-filtering system and saves a lot of time.